The Needy Little Boy Syndrome: Every woman knows this man. Few men know it’s them

Have you ever felt clingy, insecure, dysregulated, or anxious in relationships? Ashamed of wanting sex? Terrified of being "too much"? If so, this episode will explain exactly why. In this powerful solo episode of the Reforged Podcast, Scott Austin Martin breaks down one of the most important patterns he's ever taught: The Needy Little Boy Syndrome (NLBS). This isn't an insult. It's not a personality weakness or a flaw. It's not immaturity. It's a survival identity—a pattern a boy forms when his nervous system is overwhelmed, under-supported, and forced to adapt without safety, attunement, or consistent love. The boy becomes responsible for creating his own sense of safety because no one else is creating it for him. And here's what he learns: ✅ Chase connection ✅ Earn love ✅ Perform for approval ✅ Take too much responsibility (or shut down completely) ✅ Panic when someone pulls away ✅ Collapse when alone ✅ Feel unworthy unless validated These aren't weaknesses. They're brilliant adaptations. But if you don't integrate this pattern as a man, it will run your entire life—your relationships, your sexuality, your leadership, your sense of self. Scott explores where this pattern comes from, how it shows up in relationships, and most importantly, how to heal it. This is deep, somatic work. It's not about thinking your way through—it's about reconditioning your nervous system and reclaiming the masculine energy that's always been underneath. Resources Mentioned: •The Needy Little Boy Syndrome (book by Scott Austin Martin) •The Authentic Masculinity Project (book covering the 4 pillars of inner work by Scott Austin Martin) •The Reforged Brotherhood - Free Campfire Zoom every Tuesday at 6pm •Men's Circles and Coaching Programs All available on our website - authenticmasculinityproject.com Scott invites you to join The Reforged Brotherhood, where men show up to be seen, witnessed, and challenged. The Tuesday night campfire is a free, ongoing program where men practice presence, normalize their struggles, and learn the difference between being a victim and an owner of their lives. Your healing isn't about adding anything. It's about removing the conditioning, melting everything that's in your way, and restoring the man who's always been underneath. Embody who you came here to be. Melt everything that is not that. Your entire life depends on it. #NeedyLittleBoy #MensWork #AuthenticMasculinity #ReforgedPodcast #AttachmentTheory #TraumaHealing #MasculineEnergy #MensMentalHealth #SomaticProcessing #RelationshipAdvice #MensCircles #Brotherhood #EmotionalHealing #InnerWork #PersonalGrowth