The Real Reason for a Dead Bedroom: Emotional Disengagement

Are you struggling with a dead bedroom and don’t understand why? In this episode of the Reforged Podcast, licensed professional counselor and somatic trauma therapist Scott Austin Martin reveals the hidden cause of the dead bedroom — emotional disengagement. Scott explains that when a woman stops wanting sex, it’s rarely about physical desire. It’s about emotional safety. Her body shuts down when she feels judged, unseen, or emotionally abandoned. We dive into the 4 key insights that most men miss, including why common “fixes” like chasing, begging, demanding, or retreating to porn only push her further away. This episode provides a roadmap for reigniting intimacy by focusing on presence, not performance. You’ll learn how a woman’s nervous system drives desire, why emotional intimacy is the key to physical connection, and practical tools you can use today to start rebuilding trust and safety in your relationship. If you’re ready to stop misdiagnosing the problem and learn how to truly connect with your partner, this episode is a must-watch. Key Topics Covered: •The link between emotional safety and physical intimacy •Why men misdiagnose the dead bedroom problem •How the nervous system drives female desire •The power of presence over performance •Practical tools for building emotional intimacy (Gottman’s Love Maps) •The porcupine metaphor for connection and courting Connect with The Authentic Masculinity Project: Website: https://beingherenow.com Scott’s TikTok: @Scott.Austin.Martin